Integration

K Dubious · 11-05-2015, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by scarecrow

I don't think people having a point of view that is less accepting of things that might be objectionable means they are less happy.

People who are free thinkers and were unhappy are the reason America exists in the first place. I consider myself to be a very happy person at this stage in my life. That doesn't mean nothing is ever wrong or societal norms should never be challenged.

And it's not always about us. Sometimes it's about the people you care about, and you want them to be happy. For instance, I never gave two shits about feminism or things changing until I started meeting women who had legitimately good arguments for why they speak out at times. Then I started meeting men who did too. I think it's not so much an enormous change, but not raging against new thoughts or groups all the time. Change is scary, but it's not always bad.

Part of being happy for me means accepting on occasion that other points of view are valid and not Hitler-esque attempts to control humanity, because when I rage like I see people doing on here my life feels totally out of balance. Because it doesn't mean anything to me in the scheme of my personal freedoms. But if humbling myself once in awhile makes some people feel more welcome or comfortable, it's worth it to me.

Nobody really has any business saying what does or does not constitute someone's happiness, only their own.

I couldn't agree more, also I want to say I was throwing that piece into the discussion, not trying to point fingers at any of the previous posts.

I am a firm believer that only YOU can control YOUR happiness, my post was simply pointing out that some people choose to live life from a negative point of view and I will never fully understand that.

I am one of the nicest and accepting people I have ever met, lol. I also like to be open minded and truly hear the other side of every story. I am an educated person, but I never try to be right! I try to understand where someone is coming from and see if their opinion makes more sense than my own. What infuriates me is the lack of respect from the more often offended. In almost every battle I feel like the offened only wants change there is no middle ground, "make this go away as there is no other solution" is not a solution.

11-05-2015, 01:28 PM	#64
K Dubious Join Date: Jan 2014 Posts: 1,140	Quote: Originally Posted by scarecrow I don't think people having a point of view that is less accepting of things that might be objectionable means they are less happy. People who are free thinkers and were unhappy are the reason America exists in the first place. I consider myself to be a very happy person at this stage in my life. That doesn't mean nothing is ever wrong or societal norms should never be challenged. And it's not always about us. Sometimes it's about the people you care about, and you want them to be happy. For instance, I never gave two shits about feminism or things changing until I started meeting women who had legitimately good arguments for why they speak out at times. Then I started meeting men who did too. I think it's not so much an enormous change, but not raging against new thoughts or groups all the time. Change is scary, but it's not always bad. Part of being happy for me means accepting on occasion that other points of view are valid and not Hitler-esque attempts to control humanity, because when I rage like I see people doing on here my life feels totally out of balance. Because it doesn't mean anything to me in the scheme of my personal freedoms. But if humbling myself once in awhile makes some people feel more welcome or comfortable, it's worth it to me. Nobody really has any business saying what does or does not constitute someone's happiness, only their own. I couldn't agree more, also I want to say I was throwing that piece into the discussion, not trying to point fingers at any of the previous posts. I am a firm believer that only YOU can control YOUR happiness, my post was simply pointing out that some people choose to live life from a negative point of view and I will never fully understand that. I am one of the nicest and accepting people I have ever met, lol. I also like to be open minded and truly hear the other side of every story. I am an educated person, but I never try to be right! I try to understand where someone is coming from and see if their opinion makes more sense than my own. What infuriates me is the lack of respect from the more often offended. In almost every battle I feel like the offened only wants change there is no middle ground, "make this go away as there is no other solution" is not a solution. __________________ B/S/T Feedback Collection Where's "The Shadow"